On My Own Terms

So this weekend I was able to cross the beach off of Summer list to-dos. It’s not like I went on a major vacation but the reality is that I was able to really enjoy some down time with just me.  I left the kids at home with their dad and set out to be…

A Man’s Advice

So I ran into a guy or  I should say technically he ran into me.  He apologized and I said no problem and went on my way.  So a few days later after our initial encounter, I saw him again.  He asked me my name and all that jazz.  He notices my ring finger.  He…

Get You a New Hustle

So today while out getting my lunch, I decide to do my normal walk.  I stop to get food and relax when two women and 4 kids approach me.  They ask me for money to get the kids some food.  Now let me say that I wanted to judge them but I said let me…

Back to School..

So I am really enjoying all of the awesome pictures of the kids going back to school.  I know some of the southern schools have started almost a week or more ago. Back to school can be hard when you have had nothing but fun all summer long. We covered the adult kids aka the…

Sunday Message

So yesterday was a bad day.  A bad day of bad days.  I was in my emotions. I was upset over what I felt others should do for me, talk to me, give me,  wah wah wah. Was I right in what I wanted,partially?.  I wanted what I wanted. I make no excuses but I’m…

Relationship Overhaul: Time to Go!!

So the next Ask Toi was how do you get out of a relationship?  My mom always told me it’s easy to get in one and sometimes harder to get out.  It depends on why the relationship is ending. If you are in an abusive relationship and regardless of kids or not you must have…

Relationship Overhaul: Asking for too much too soon

Well here we go with more relationship questions from my Ask Toi.  Again if you want to ask an anonymous question please do so on toitimeblog@gmail.com Today’s question comes from a young lady who wants to know how to deal with a man who wants her to put her cards on the table but refuses to…

Relationship Overhauls: Clingy Mate

So in the last week I’ve gotten several Ask Toi.  I decided since most of them were about relationships to make them into full blogs and to make it a series.  I will answer the non Ask Toi questions in regular Ask Toi formats and if you have more relationship questions you can ask them…

Dreams can be messages!!

So how often do you dream?  Not just the type of dreams where you write down your heart’s desire.  I am talking about the type of dreams where you lay down and visions come to you.  Often times if I am dreaming it’s about little quirky stuff and most of them I do not remember….

National Failures Day

Well if you’re already on the edge about your life and in particular about mistakes you may have made, well today is your day.   No it’s not the day to wallow in despair it’s a day to remember and move forward. Life is hard.   If I could say I was perfect that would…

College Final Words

So when I graduated I was the happiest person in the world.  I thought about every stressful situation, every heartache, every defeat, every victory and it made me realize just how strong I was to get through it all.  I was happy to finally have my degree.  The very next semester I cried walking in…

Chug, Chug, Chug-College Style

So yes as I stated in my other college related blogs I didn’t start drinking until at least end of sophomore or early junior year.  I won’t name my supplier since I wasn’t of age. Now this is where all parents fear comes in the most.  Kids and alcohol don’t always mix.  Let me say…